All of the words to choose
And anger picked up those ones
All of the words to choose
And defence threw that absolute bomb in return
All of the words to choose
I wish I had chosen more wisely
Now all of the words to use
Have fallen silent
*Right word, right place, take the time, choose wisely. Words are either powerful connectors, or lethal alienators, and changing just one word in an entire email can make all the difference to how it is received.
I get busy and thoughtless, so I’ve had times that I have regretted a “send”. I’ve also received emails and letters that have been unnecessarily aggressive, particularly from government departments. These are standard letters, and I cringe to think how ratepayers and citizens are opening these missives, and feeling affronted by the words they contain.
People often take a check of their communications for spelling or punctuation but fail to take it that one step further. A quick scan for the energy implications of an email, as well as thinking how it might be received, can invite better relationships. And whether for work or personal reasons – great relationships make for a more enjoyable life.
I have felt the impact lately of how a badly wrought email can cause me to want to react hastily (and negatively) in response. I think good communication skills are being lost beneath a welter of “I” focused technology and ways of conversing that are unnatural to the way we are designed. We are complex social animals, not robots, and yet increasingly our world is narrowing to shallow quick gambits which lack nuance and expression.
“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel”
Maya Angelou
I have a post it note to this effect on my desk, it says
“don’t be an idiot, never offer proof that you’re an idiot, and don’t ever let anyone else feel like an idiot either – check your words before they leave you”
You’re welcome – Me X
Our world is governed by a river of communication which flows through and around us all the time. Incorrect communication leads to blockages and impediments that stem the flow of life, causing things to become far more difficult and unworkable then they otherwise could be.
Poor communication, and too much of it is at the heart of much of modern day stress. I’m looking forward to a week-end away from emails. I hope you have the same.
And furthermore on words, other posts, older ones:
Strangling Words
