Propagating the Seeds of our Souls

If you meet a person who is less than perfect – it is because they are holding part/s of themselves back. It could be because they are feeling defensive and consciously or unconsciously withholding themselves or it could be because they haven’t grown into that particular corner yet.

Human beings are born whole and in every package hides a seed. This kernel is not the same one that holds the DNA of the generations that have gone before it. This seed is entirely more precious.

The brain can be rewired and only calibrates as it is taught by the world around it. The body is a lump of clay which can be moulded in accordance with what the brain and egos wishes. The precious seed on the other hand has nothing to do with clay.

As people we by and large, behave in accordance with how our brain dictates. The brain is taught by parents, teachers, peers and by experiencing life around it. The seed doesn’t need to be taught anything – it already knows everything it needs. The seed knows its purpose. It knows what it is here to do.

The seed needs to grow. It is easy to imagine a seed being carried for a hundred lifetimes (if you believe in such things) before it grows properly into the human soul that it needs to become in order to fulfil it’s purpose. That is because people are distracted. They focus heavily on doing what the brain tells them when they should be looking deeper. Our body already knows what to do in it’s perfect state and the brain can be rewired but it can only begin to listen and change when we listen to the seed – and it lies buried deep within.

So how do we begin to listen to the seed? A good place – I have found – is to start with other people. I wouldn’t normally suggest that but I had a blinding strike of inspiration this morning when someone drove past and we waved and the usual prickle of annoyance of seeing that person didn’t appear. So that helped me.

You see this someone usually has a great many opinions about people and is not afraid to state them – quite bluntly. This person also has the odd one about me – which used to erk me to the point of seething even when they said nothing because I knew, I just knew what they thought.

So I wondered why I wasn’t worried anymore. And I found it had to do with the part of myself that secretly worried their opinions of me might be true. This part had gone missing in action. Couldn’t be found. In it’s place was a little patch that was healing nicely – soon it wouldn’t even leave a scar. If you look for the parts of yourself that you are annoyed with in difficult peoples opinions then – just like checking your lipstick before you go out the door – you will be able to see a clear reflection. And that reflection will tell you the parts of you into which you need to enquire deeper.

I am not saying you are faulty. I am saying that perhaps this perceived flaw is simply an aspect of yourself which is being shown outwardly as a negative because you aren’t using it right. I’m not talking either, about nonsense that you can in fact check in a normal mirror. Stop worrying about your exterior – it won’t even matter once you grow your seed because human beings that grow older in accordance with their seeds are so stunningly beautiful that you will never have to worry about your appearance again.

I’m talking about things like this “You ask too many questions”. “You were born talking and chatterbox” were also frequent themes for me. If you have been told this constantly since you were a tiny child then listen because it might just refer to your seed. As a child I was also admonished not to “wear your heart on your sleeve “and “you’re so over sensitive” among other things. This sounds a bit awful but as the youngest in my family I was hugged as often I was verbally pecked at. Nobody meant anything by it – but it is useful intel when working out which flaws to work with and most of the extraneous ones will fall away once you

It is important to note that I seemed to grow more flawed as I grew older instead of less. There are a great many things to consider when unpacking your seed and it requires a bit of insight and time – all this information didn’t just come to me in one flash, there are older lessons here. This morning just allowed me to condense them a little.

Go back to only the earliest recollections and those oft repeated, which may echo those old ones – because they are probably the ones  you need to look at. The later ones just need to be dropped as they were probably defence mechanisms that your seed employed to protect itself.

I’m a good communicator (summary needs a little work). More than that – I am driven to communicate and share. If I hadn’t been intensely curious of life around me and then -further – didn’t feel compelled to share what I learnt – then I wouldn’t be writing this. Communication is one of my greatest gifts and enjoyments – I feel blessed to have discovered this.

Look behind the negative application of your perceived flaw whatever it is and instead start enhancing the positives. Nobody looks at a flower or a tree and says “well that is just wrong.” This is because in nature plants and animals listen to their seeds a lot better than humans do. I found it hopeful to realise that even if humans are not all perfect – their souls are. We can die with beautiful fully grown out souls or we can die like wizened stunted things – the difference is the care and attention we pay to propagating our seeds.

The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Your Mind

Ever had a thought which instantly drops your gut.   Within seconds you are hooked on a mental loop with tentacles that reach deep into your body causing a rise in heart beat, a tightness in your throat and more. I’m not describing a full blown anxiety attack though it may feel like it and those attacks spring from the same place.  I’m talking about a single thought and the pulling power it has to multiply others until they overtake your present moment causing body weather to change like clouds rolling over a blue sky.

This is how it spirals:

You may stop at anger (150)

You may stop at fear (100)

You may fall as far as grief (75)

But God help you if you go back to either guilt (30) or its lower inmate shame (20)

Depending on how you were feeling to begin with – you are now a much easier target for bad shit to happen to. Don’t believe me? Do a test and spend a few moments on each level.

Think of something that makes you feel loving (500)

Think of something makes you angry (100)

Think of something which causes grief (75)

Think of something that makes you feel guilt (30) – now shame (20) and that is SHAME not its more ordinary embarrassment which is probably just an offshoot of pride and anger so calibrates somewhere between ( 100 – 175)

Obviously this test works far better if this were to happen to you in real time and if you just actually conjured up abject shame for even a moment I’m so sorry that you now feel like crap. However,  it is a prime example  in how energy drops affect our body and mental state. It is sickening how quickly mere phantoms can reach out from the ether and twist us into knots – turning our perfectly pleasurable present into a morass of seething memory born pain or anger. No wonder societal physical and mental health as a whole is deteriorating.

I read a book a couple of years ago by Marie Kondo about decluttering. The premise being that you decluttered your home and contents ruthlessly leaving only the items which made you truly happy. When the mission was accomplished the person would be surrounded only by things which brought pleasure to their lives and nothing less. Nice one.

After experiencing the usual rollercoaster ride in my head and energy levels the other day I had the idea to attempt just that. Mental decluttering. It’s hard.

One whole section of our brain is wired for memory – like a spacious closet which has no concern for what you fill it with. Unfortunately the trip to the bin with mental possessions – your bad memories, grief, regret, grievances and grudges is akin to throwing a boomerang, turning your back and getting struck a couple of seconds later by the returning flight.

How do you stop the elastic nature of mental clutter? Why do certain people and things just keep looping back to you whether you care for their presence or not? I read somewhere (please don’t ask me to reference every single thing I have read – I simply can’t but if it is a particularly good book/article  rest assured I will give you the heads up).  I read somewhere that it is because we build bridges to that person/event in our mind. I particularly liked this explanation because it meant if I had built the damn bridge I could burn it down again. Did I tell you it’s hard?

It serves no purpose thinking or willing a thought away. You may as well try to take a nap on a Sunday in a room full of flies. Thoughts will crawl all over your brain until you really wish you hadn’t started the process in the first place. Meditation helps but you have to take time out and sit and hum and have incense – okay you don’t need any of that but you do have to stop whatever it is you are doing and go mediate which is just not realistic. You have stuff to do and it would be a lot easier without these thought flies.

So the way to kill a thought before it drops you is to kill it – splat – like a fly – as soon as it lands. Don’t indulge it – don’t pay it any attention. Let it go. If you can do it fast enough then the full force of the emotion which usually accompanies the thought will not arise making it much easier to let go. Yes it takes practice, everything takes practice to perfect.

It also helps to think of thoughts as energy clusters and to read them as they come at you. Once you realise what reaction a particular thought (and we all recognise them because the repetitive ones just keep coming back to us day after groundhog bloody day!) about a person or thing does to you, you will catch yourself having it. With practice you will see it faster and be able to prevent the descent. I’m not pretending to be a guru you understand – I am just sharing what I try to do and if that helps you too – awesome.

This is how it goes (sort of) for me:

“Oh crap I’m thinking about such and such again and they always bring me down – I’m not thinking about them right now because he/she messes with my head”smack, dead fly.

Or

“Oh crap I’m having the thought about <Enter latest Crisis/Drama> again and there is nothing I can do about it.” Anxiety about the future is the same as rumination on the past – it solves absolutely no purpose. Planning serves a purpose. Anxiety does not. Look at a problem squarely, plan a way around it and work positively. Do not just worry about it. Agitation serves no purpose but to make yourself sick. I should know, I used to spend large chunks of my time either worrying about the future or ruminating about the past. I don’t do that anymore because I know that the best way I can operate in the present moment and with hope for the future is by lifting my energy as high as possible. But then there are these thoughts.

Or

“Today is Mum’s birthday – I miss her, I wish…” Stop – its okay to miss but not to wish. It is okay to think about loved ones that are gone but it is not okay to descend into grief and rumination. There is a raw period of grief that no one can negotiate happily but after awhile and when they are not in our thoughts every single second, then it is more helpful to – instead of descending into grief when they do pop up – instead send them blessings and great love.

Love calibrates at 500 Grief calibrates at 75. One lifts us (and in turn everyone around us) the other sinks (and sucks the sunshine out of the sky). You get to choose and when you do you automatically choose for your remaining loved ones as well (unconsciously or not). They deserve to be around someone who is vibrating at the very best energy level they can achieve. Once you grasp this fact then you start to feel less selfish about being happy, realising that actually the best you can do for everyone around you is to be as happy as you possibly can be.

Why would I mention feeling selfish or wrong or even rather slightly sheepish about being happy? Ever been around someone when you are high energy who tries to make it seem like a crime? I have. It used to effectively bring me down. Which is where sayings like “cut you down to size” “bring you down to level” may stem from. Perhaps they are not always applied to people behaving arrogantly but rather those that are simply radiating happiness – which seems intolerable to someone who is radiating anger or grief.

Energy stealers and toxic people do this. They want what you have but for some reason won’t ask you nicely as in “I need a hug” instead they roll their eyes and start to bleed you viciously with the miseries of their lives or other peoples lives or just misery in general.

Don’t attack them back – they want your energy (your focus) and they don’t care how they get it. At the very least they want to cut you down to size. Be nice, send them some love -if it doesn’t work to alleviate the situation – walk away. I’m not a bloody saint either and I don’t always get this right because being drained of energy happens in a myriad of sneaky ways and is nasty to cope with. It has helped me enormously to make a few realisations about energy though and why people behave the way they do.

Summary of how to declutter your mind in three simple steps:

  • Everything is energy.Once you are aware of your own energy – what lifts it and what drops it – you are in control of how you manage it. Treat thoughts (and people) like energy clusters and avoid or handle the ones that drain you with a little more awareness.
  • Clean out old thoughts. Reframe old memories. Some will continue to pester you and repeatedly come back. The way to get rid of them is to write them out of your system. Write everything about why and what you are feeling about that particular person/event/memory. Eventually they will be empty of energy, then if you want throw the paper in the bin.
  • Sever (and keep severing) any links that you are making to toxic people in your head. You may not be able to prevent yourself from bumping into them in real life but you don’t have to make them comfortable in your head. Besides which if you stop thinking about them you are less likely to actually bump into them in the real world.

 

 

*Energy calibration figures taken from “Power vs Force” by Dvid R. Hawkins M.D., Ph.D.

 

The beauty of mistakes

Lessons learnt.

Thats all they are.

Lessons learnt.

Why is so much pressure wrought on people who make mistakes?

From the awkward social faux pas to the grave transgression – a scale of judgement is summarily applied – the temperature of which lists lightly from sotto voiced behind hand whispers to the outraged heaving of an all out twitter lynch mob. I’m not famous enough for the latter but I’ve certainly suffered through the former. It isn’t pleasant especially since at the time I was probably already hard enough on myself.

Shaming is indiscriminate of age. Once a child becomes a teenager (or thereabouts) they are deemed to be “up for it” blamed, shamed and gossiped about. The fact that they are still learning so much about themselves and the world around them combined with the pressure cooker of social media smacks of blatant unfairness. But it doesn’t matter – mistakes seem to eternally have the same outcome.

Shame for the perpetrator. Blame from the crowd and hello listen to an awful mindless soundtrack stuck on repeat.

This is a great pity for obviously it makes people less inclined to be courageous and risk putting a foot wrong. Mistakes are messy things however they are also the seeding ground of learning and bravery. Mistakes are great proponents of growth. Nothing like getting your fingers burnt on a hot surface to know (with great certainty) not to touch it again.

Sometimes in life you have to bumble about making a few mistakes and seeing what works and what doesn’t. In fact it is absolutely necessary to do exactly that if you want to attain any level of wisdom and strength. The worst that can happen is usually a bit of cringe burn. If I had died from third degree cringe burn at certain times (alright quite a lot of times) in my life then I wouldn’t be here today but luckily nobody actually dies from embarrassment – it just feels that way briefly – then life scrolls on.

People get very upset about mistakes. High dudgeon is churned up in the wake of even the slightest of gaffs and don’t even begin down the road of a temporary waiver of the old inner moral compass. The thing is none of it has much to do with the actual mistake – everything (as everything always is) is about energy.

Energy is what makes the world go round. It is also what draws and repels people. Put simply (because I don’t want to get off track) everything that exists has energy and that energy can be measured. High energy lifts the vibration of everything around it. Low energy serves absolutely no purpose and becomes a burden to be around.

Anyway back to mistakes. It is a pity that people do not consider the energy that is directed back at them – back at the world as a whole with the most currently utilised model of dealing with mistake makers:

Mistake > Recrimination = Shame.

In energy terms Shame vibrates at the very lowest calibration (20).  Cultures and practices geared towards shame, guilt and misery understandably and predictably fail as they are stuck in a vortex which provides no way to learn from their mistakes.

To look for evidence of this is not difficult as entire socio economic structures clearly depict this model of failure not too far from our own doorsteps. Children growing up in poverty and relentless cycles of violence and shame. With no way out, no useful guidance – – they create their own mistakes and are harshly shoved back down to be consumed and rehashed for the fodder of further generational mistakes to be made. Drive past any housing commission estate and check in with how you’re feeling. Yeah it’s not a good vibe and a very simple display of how low calibration energy affects your body.

If energy is the thing which we all crave then the best we can receive by attacking a person and shaming them is very low. In fact shame pulls everything and everyone around it downwards. This is probably why people prefer to do it from a comfortable distance or behind the perpetrators back as the case usually is. After all self righteousness probably calibrates somewhat higher (pride and anger demonstrably calibrate at 150 and 175 respectively). 

A useful alternative perhaps would then be this:

Mistake > Reflection = Reason

Reason has a calibration of 400 just below love (500). If you want to look around you and see reason and understanding – feel that energy – reverberating throughout society then the second option suddenly becomes far more desirable.

Successful education and rehabilitation programs show that they are based on reflection and change in response to learning a better way of doing things. As people are offered pathways out of the lower non productive states of shame and guilt they start to thrive and become better equipped to make increasingly positive choices.

Imagine how much faster this process would be if guilt and shame were not applied in the first place. Imagine a world that operated from a base of reason rather than shame. Imagine a world of courageous people not afraid to try because they are not fearful of failing.

Imagine it and then start applying it in your own life because this is the only way that energy begins to rise towards higher calibrations. It starts with individuals choosing a different more positive way of doing things.  The impact that a single person operating from a base of reason can have is immeasurable simply because they lift others along with them.

Here is a great video with a Ted Talk by Rene Brown which offers further insights into the subjects of shame, vulnerability and how important it is to overcome paralysing self doubt in order to achieve our goals and plans. I found it inspiring – hope you do to.

*Note – Energy calibrations stated above are taken from Sir David R. Hawkins M.D. PhD book Power vs Force.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

In the beginning there was a thousand bits of paper

At school I had to write things down in order to remember them, otherwise the knowledge would scatter into a blur of not quite held together logic that didn’t make a whole lot of sense when it came to recall it at exam time. Journalling this year has reminded me of the importance of nailing ideas and thoughts down as I have them.

A thousand bits of paper, in its blog form is broadening those internal conversations to include other readers who might be interested or thinking about the same sorts of things. It is not intended to replace my journal  but rather the A4 notebook that runs beside it. This blog is where I can explore ideas and throw other media into the mix which reinforces some of what interests me and what I have learnt about myself, other people or the world in general.

In short I am writing the blog I wish to read.

We are all connected and here for the same reason. To grow. A lot of what I’m discussing here is not revelatory – these are topics we may have all thought of at some time or other because we’ve read the same books or lived a life along similar lines and lessons. Reading and learning is high on my priority list – always has been and by making it so I have been able to make big changes in who I am and how I see the world around me.

This blog isn’t for everyone, no blog ever is but if it lights a spark of interest in a few people so that they enter a library and take out a book or go googling a topic further and become a more informed person because of that – then my aim is accomplished. A blog is a platform not a solution. I’m a writer who is interested in a subject but far from a professional in any of the areas that I discuss here. 

 

As in life – this blog is an organic process. In a decades time I hope I can look back and see where I’ve grown along the way. I hope that in doing this I’m also leaving an indelible link of myself here that my kids can go look at in years to come whether I am around to give advice on a topic or not, perhaps even my grandkids can have direct access to the fact that their Grandma was, just as Daddy said – a complete nutter!