There is a part in all of us that we don’t like.
Words spring from there at times
And seem to belong to someone else.
Alas they are our own
Aghast we watch them roll off our tongue
Seemingly unable to prevent their blooming
into the world
So we regret!
Cogitate and ferment
And wish it wasn’t so
Or hadn’t been
Perhaps instead of regret
a better use of our time
would be to reflect
on why and where they come from
What is it that makes us react
in such a fashion
as to be
Anything that comes from us
whether we wish it to be or not
one must own everything
in its totality
there is no part that you can say
“oh well that is not really me”
So it is
And you said that
even if it was not what you wished
or say you intended
you said it
so there must have been a reason
and it is on this that you must reflect
You cannot blame another
this was their fault
or his or hers or even it’s
Or the full moon
or a mood
because it came from you
and you always have a choice
as to what you do
and how you behave
And it is no good getting stuck
in the rut
of a whirlpool of regret
instead as I said
you must reflect
Regret changes nothing
even if you declare it to be so
“from this day forward I will –
I will most certainly not!
because without the learning
you will simply regret forever
Reflection changes everything
because it will tell you
and without the why
you cannot begin to try
a better person
And so this is a little ho hum I put to paper this morning whilst a whisper of regret was circling my head. Regret is a witch. A witch on her broomstick. Round and round she goes – cackling. I needed something to knock her out of the sky – make her land on her arse and be quiet.
I found it in reflection.
There is something powerful in choosing to accept, to own and to enquire into the why? To do it kindly and calmly as would a very good parent counsel a child. Your inner child. What have you been up to and why? Lets take a look at this my darling (and this is how you talk to yourself not in that nasty witchy waspish voice but in the gentle one). Be compassionate with yourself when you reflect.
We are all human. This is an affliction which we all share. To regret is one of the greatest common thought threads woven throughout history and continuing in perpetuation into the future. Surely.
Yet reflection is the key to change. Reflection is the key to growth. Reflection is the only path to becoming the person that you wish to be.
And that is my lesson to myself today, perhaps you need it as well.
Knock your witches out of the sky. Bring them down to earth. Walk with them awhile. Then walk away from them.