Who is your bitch?
And it doesn’t have to be female
Who is the person you know
That makes everyone around them tip toe
Lest a nasty torrent be unleashed
You can feel the tension
That forgets to breathe
When they around
It rises behind them
Like the dust
Of a thousand heart shattering
Well I do get carried away sometimes
You know the person I mean
And a picture is forming
Oh yes that bitch!
You know them
Now what if I said that person
Is in pain
That because of that pain
They reflect it everywhere around them
Throwing up mirrors
Where their demons stare back in
What if I said
When people are nasty
The only way to greet it is to be kind
Not without boundaries
Let me explain
I heard a woman speak the other day about how she was saved by someone being kind to her in the face of her own pain
She wasn’t well liked (hated in fact) because frankly she was a bitch
Her demons had isolated her to the point where they had her pinned down in a hell of her own making
She could see no way out
Except the path that no one should wander
And especially alone
She held a corporate position at work
At home she was the victim of domestic violence and abuse
Then a light appeared
Another woman recognised the demon mask
She had been there before herself
One early morning
With great courage and kindness
She stepped in behind it
To where this broken human
It took her a year to win free of her situation
But now she spends her life helping other women
And fighting demons
Because someone discovered
Her true identity
And aided her recovery
I’m not saying every bitch you come across has a story
But some might
So the next time the urge comes to retaliate
Are you just mirroring someone else’s pain?
You have a choice
You can be a peaceful reflection instead
And how good would that feel
To someone who has so much going on in their head
*so many broken people – the world is full of them – bad behaviour is the new normal
Don’t normalise it
Don’t ignore it
And if you can do nothing else – just don’t add to it
Another thing – people who are hard on other people tend to be hardest on themselves.
The internal conversation is continued to the outside world.
Another damn good reason to be kind to yourself first – stop spilling your inner dialogue on others – try it and you will change the reflection you see coming down the street and smiling across the counter.
PPPPSsss. I’m not saying people have the right to behave badly I’m just saying many do and it’s for a reason that has nothing to do with you and you also have a right
The right to peace
So do that, be that, have that, and be grateful you can.
This thought really helps me when I’m faced with someone’s demons these days – I don’t always handle it perfectly (Leo’s are not normally known for purring when you scruff them up the wrong way..) 😂 but it’s a hella lot easier to let that shit go when I realise it is not mine to carry – if you’re struggling with forgiveness maybe it helps you too.
You deserve peace and quiet and cups of tea without your thoughts regurgitating what a damn bitch she/he was to you today.