I never taught you the art of conflict
I only recently learnt it myself
How to stand your ground
How to ask for what you want
And receive it
It shouldn’t be hard but we can make it
How to sit with hard feelings
Until you realise it doesn’t matter as long as you have the answer
The love within
How to feel fear vibrate through you and not distract
Just feel it
Watch it like a flame
Sputter and spit
Leaving you released
From whatever it was talking about
It’s just a feeling
Caused by a thought
And if you are brave enough to sit with any feeling that you don’t want
Till it burns down
Becomes ashes in your mouth
Swirl and rinse
Be done with it
Feelings can’t stop you
They’re a thing of the mind
A magicians trick
Sleight of hand
They just won’t stick
After you know how he did it
It’s almost boring
Smoke and mirrors
And you’ll wonder
How you were ever fooled for so damn long
20 thoughts on “The art of conflict”
Exactly. You wonder how you were fooled for so damned long.
Ha, excellently nailed!
I had to teach myself that one too. It’s a long and rocky road.
Childhood tends to teach us to sit down and behave not to enter into warfare in an intelligent way. I guess that’s what siblings are for but then mine were all so much older that I kind of had to behave well with them too – school doesn’t teach it and the workplace has its own hierarchy so eventually we work it out by ourselves and anything we work out by ourselves is messy by design. I could cross stitch it and hang it in a pretty frame now – if I did cross stitch which I don’t. It becomes easier and neater until you wonder how the hell such a simple thing is not simply taught – there would be less damn wars for sure.
A very intelligent perspective and a clever writing.🍃🌺🍃
Thankyou 😊 it wasn’t an entirely intelligent journey but wisdom never is. Everything looks dumb till it finally looks smart. That is the creative process right there 😁
Yes, the begetting of wisdom cost us!🤔
Love this Kate, and I wish I hadn’t been fooled for so long too.
Ahh! I hope this art came naturally, like eating, for everyone without having to ‘learn it’ over the years. Very profound piece, Kate.
Thankyou Bulbul. We are taught so many things about what not to do – the simple act of defence and assertiveness is neglected. Conflict is avoided by the very people who need to know instead, that it is simply another skill to learn.
That is so true, especially the last sentence! Thank you for your thoughts.
Well said, Kate. Maybe Twitter will listen to you.
Can’t be bothered with Twitter Len. It is handy for some second hand news and a bit of a drift through high fiving a few lovely people – that is about it
Ohhhh yes. Absolutely