An Older Woman’s Skin

What does perfection look like?

Rain

relaxed

slightly baggy

comfortable

long and soft

pliable

flexible

a little frayed around the edges

a tiny bit burnt

just on the tips of hair and nose

scented in oils

silver and candelight

coffee in bed in the morning

tea in bed at night

with the door open

a soft breeze

and crickets

lush green plant profusion that I actually remember to water and tend

wise dog’s heads

soft brown eyes

collapsing of furry bodies

deep contented sighs

long walks

runs

a strong body

health

just enough wealth

books to the ceiling

and then some more

soft rugs

timber floors

empty surfaces

finally free of “more”

(except books – always room for more books)

linen sheets

fresh off the line

a touch of red

a slither of silk

the slightest shrug of cashmere

just one piece of exquisite cloud-like texture

to treasure

a deep bath

a big motorbike

the ability to laugh and laugh

and laugh

more things second-hand

patched leather

favourite things

precious things

I won’t cling

but I hope they last as long as I do

Boots beaten and comfortable

several cool hats

old jeans

colourful jangly jewellery

dangly earrings

for when I’m feeling girly

Bright kimonos, long skirts

that make me feel like a parrot with feathers

dashing around my house

clean floors

good beats

dancing in the kitchen

delicious food

scrabble games severe

long phone calls to my sister

lunch dates that last all day with my best mate

giving back to the community

feeling them give to me

wide smiles

my husband’s wiry chest hairs

The crinkly wrinkles just at the side of his eyes form starbursts when he smiles

when he smiles at me

hugs from my sons grown taller broader, wider stronger than me

making me feel small

but loved

so loved

ocean swims

red dirt roads

walking and whistling

shoulders free of loads

bare feet on cool, wet lawn

sprinklers

the passing of days well spent

mornings

evenings

the long, quiet expanse of a hot midday

finding first greys

rather liking them

grateful to have lived this long

leaving them be

loving me

just the way I am

forgiven for all my sins

flaws

omissions

finally

grateful for where I’ve been

what I’ve seen

Who I am

Perfection is…

Nothing like I imagined

in a younger woman’s skin.

Taken from “The Steps We Take Within”, no longer available in book form. Artwork generated using Artiphoria. Have a beautiful day and find the perfection, whatever that means to you.

37 thoughts on “An Older Woman’s Skin

  1. Kate, this is brilliant. I love how this poem embraces imperfection and gratitude. It beautifully captures a sense of contentment and fulfillment in vivid imagery and heartfelt reflections! Wow!

    ~David

    • Thanks David, that’s so kind of you to stay. I love sitting in the evenings and letting my mind run off at the hand and tell me what it is thinking about 💫💕

  2. Was fun to watch how your thoughts unfolded as I read through. You’ve got such a beautiful and appreciative mind. ❤️

    • Years of weeding M, years of weeding and tending and pulling out the rubbish and over planting it with good thoughts. I am not naturally positive, I’m actually quite pensive – comes with territory of reflection, but I try very hard to create a personal home that is comfortable to live in. Doesn’t always work of course – then there is incense and green tea and candles and long deep baths and writing in my favourite kimono and going out to the dark cool lawn and looking up at the stars. Then I shrink to the size of an ant beneath them. Insignificance makes me the happiest. ❤️✨

      • There you go again 😉💫
        Insignificance is where we realize just how amazing it is to be alive and that’s when we focus on all the wondrous little things life has to offer. I think you n I are of similar age and being a Gen X we just get it. 🙃

  3. One of my favorites from one of my favorites from one of my favorite poetry books in the world. You’re a beautiful soul–in and out. Growing older makes you even more beautiful–for the lens through which you see life is rose-colored with raw wisdom. Forgiven, loved, seen, and aware. You’re a light, Kate. I’ve missed several posts and poems; my apologies, dear friend. Sending love always, Karla❤️

  4. It’s interesting how a lot of people become more comfortable in their skin as they get older while others struggle with aging. It really depends on our outlook and mindset, I think. Loved the poem.

    • Hi Pooja, it is sad how some people grieve their aging process. It hasn’t really hit me yet in so far as I am probably fitter now than I was in my twenties and relish so many things that age can’t touch, however I do think it depends what we identify with . I identify with health and wellness and spirit and creativity. If I was obsessed with my skin and wrinkles or whatever then I would probably have a few issues. I feel blessed to be alive. There were a few ladies last year and the year before that around my age who died of cancer. Sharpens the focus. ✨

      • Yeah, I think focusing on the positives like being healthy and feeling great is definitely the way to go. I’ve been seeing more grey hairs recently and it sucked at first but then I started to think of how lucky I am to be alive because as a teenager I wasn’t even sure if I would make it past 20 due to my depression.

      • I prefer platinum to grey – it makes us more precious as we grow older. I think we are more precious simply because life continues to be upon us. It’s so easy to die. Extraordinarily easy and random. It could be scary to contemplate how many ways there are to die and that right this minute thousands, millions perhaps are dying, or we could consider how miraculous and wonderful it is to be alive. I take it for granted all the time, but I try to remind myself throughout the day, how precious life is.

      • It’s true, there are millions of ways to die and people die everyday. Being alive is a gift. And being healthy is an even bigger gift.

  5. Oh, i always felt like an old soul, yet to experience an old body… your words have got me longing for moments from my childhood in my nana’s countryside house and wishing for my future aged self to oh so peacefully ponder over gratitude about the little things that somehow always end to have the greatest importance… such a beautiful way of writing your own milestones. Thank you! 🎀

    • My pleasure! I was listening to a podcast this morning about the richness that comes from living our lives mindfully, being fully aware and present. I wish I could stay in that space constantly, but a little more each day is doable.

      • We tend to lose ourselves in the fast forward way of living nowadays, and it gets hard to sometimes grasp the moments, but at times they smack us right where we need them to.

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