To hold the hand flat on a searing surface
Would be unthinkable
They both light up the same area of the brain
To hold a thought, a memory, of great pain unflinchingly
Is as meaningful as taking a knife to our own jugular
Yet we do it
Drop the knife
And stop holding onto things that hurt you day after day
*Runs are good for thinking about things, particularly the long ones, which are tiring and cause pain. I actively begin thinking of other things that I can get lost in, rather than the temporary discomfort of the moment.
And one thought leads to another
And then before you know it you are thinking about something that really doesn’t serve you.
What I’ve noticed is that some thoughts, painful thoughts, cause tangible weakness in the body.
You have to immediately set them aside, flinch when you hear them coming and switch to something more empowering, or they will drop you to a walk, and even a standstill, until you recover.
The mind is a dangerous place to go poking around in without some awareness. And even with awareness, we can accidentally trip and fall into rumination on painful or weakening things.
I’ve been watching Brene Brown’s The Atlas of the Heart (on Binge) I’m up to the third episode now. She talks about the importance of having the right language to describe feeling, because we are feeling beings first, and then thinking beings second.
I’ve always felt it to be the opposite. The thought causes the feeling.
Regardless (as I’m probably entering an argument akin to the chicken or the egg theory) I love the idea of empowering people with the right words to describe what they are feeling.
Because here is thing. Without words – thoughts do not occur. They just don’t, try it. There is a black void in the mind if you truly force it to be wordless.
Then if you use your words carefully and skilfully – you will be changing your life.
And this is another one of those things I come back to, in a bit of a different way. And I’ll probably come back to it forever
Because words are fascinating and to master language and communication is a lifetime goal.
Although I don’t know if we ever actually master language, or if it continues to lead us on a merry chase to that very last word.
And another – although if like me, and you’re interested in communication and words, just do a search on my site – plenty of posts will pop up – and you can disappear down the rabbit hole with me for awhile 😊
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